George Washington to Step-granddaughter Eleanor (Nelly) Parke Custis, Philadelphia, March 21, 1796
a?Your document, the receipt which i will be right now admitting, is created effectively in addition to good characters, that is certainly an explanation which you command, any time you remember to, a good give. Had of these advantages, it will probably be your own fault if you fail to avail on your own of these, and interest are paid within the chosen the topics, you may have absolutely nothing to fear from the malignancy of complaints, as your points become energetic, plus your outlines reasonable. Enable me to look some sort of currently your Georgetown golf ball, and delighted, thrice-happy, for its honest who were built regarding the affair, that there was actually men to spare; for received there really been 79 ladies and only 78 gentlemen, there could, throughout the evening, have now been some condition some of the hats; notwithstanding the indifference what kind of vendor [Nelly by herself] entertains for its a?youtha? from the today’s, and her resolve a?never to supply herself a momentas uneasiness due to them.a? An indication right here; males and females feel the very same inclinations to each other seeing that these people have completed, and that they continues to manage until you will find another purchase of abstraction, so you, as people did, might find, possibly, that the interests of your sex is less difficult increased than allayed. Try not to therefore offer too quickly or way too firmly of any insensibility to, or opposition of, its influence. Through the structure on the individual body absolutely a great deal of inflammable material, but dormant it might sit for some time, and like a romantic associate of yours, whenever the light happens to be you need to put this, what is within perhaps you may split into a blaze; in which reasons and also way too, as I has came into upon the phase of recommendations, i am going to browse we a lecture pulled with this content.
a?Love is said to be an involuntary interest, and it is, thus, contended it become ignored. Do so simply merely, for like all abstraction more, any time nourished and offered plentifully with aliment, really rapid within the developments; but get these getting distant and it also could be stifled within the delivery or much stinted with its development. Like, a female (exactly the same are stated of various other intercourse) all beautiful and established, will, while this model fingers and center tends to be undisposed of, shut the mind and set the circle-in which she progresses flame. Let her wed, and what exactly is the effect? The insanity ceases and all is peaceful once again. The reason? perhaps not because there is any diminution inside the charms belonging to the lady, but also becasue there exists an-end of optimism. For this reason it comes after, that really love may therefore ought to be in the assistance of explanation, for although we cannot skip fundamental impressions, we could possibly assuredly position them under safeguard; and your reasons for the treatment of within this subject should be highlight, whenever you stays Eleanor Parke Custis, spinster, and secure the quality to enjoy with moderation, the propriety of staying with the last-mentioned determination, about till you have attached your own event , and exactly how where it can also be carried out.
a?once the flames try starting to kindle, together with your emotions cultivating warm, propound these inquiries to it. Who is this invader? Have got we a reliable familiarity with him? Try the guy men of good character; a guy of feeling?  For, be confident, a sensible woman cannot be happy with an idiot? [sic] just what has been his or her walk-in being? Is the guy a gambler, a spendthrift, or drunkard? Is actually his lot of money adequate to steadfastly keep up me in the manner i have already been familiar with dwell , and my favorite sisters perform alive, and is particularly the man anyone to who my friends can get no acceptable issue?  If these interrogatories could be satisfactorily resolved, there’ll remain but one more is questioned, that, however, is a vital one. Bring I adequate ground to close out that his own affections were engaged by me personally?  Without this the center of sensibility will battle against an interest that’s not reciprocated ; delicacy, customized, or think of it as precisely what epithet may, using precluded all advancements by you. The resolution, with no many indirect invitation of yours, must move forward from your people, to render it long lasting and valuable, and nothing in short supply of sense and a straightforward unchanged actions can pull the range between prudery and coquetry. It could be no wonderful departure from truth of the matter to convey, that it hardly ever happens different than that a thorough-paced coquette expires in celibacy, as a punishment on her behalf attempts to misguide rest, by motivating styles, terms, or activities, furnished for no other goal rather than draw guy onto making overtures which they is likely to be turned down. 
a?This night, reported by all of our facts, gives a man to your elder sister [Eliza Parke Custis], and consummates, it really is staying presumed, the woman fondest preferences. The beginning with our company is brilliant, and propitious, I’m hoping, of the woman potential pleasure, for a complete way of measuring which she and Mr. guidelines posses my favorite serious dreams. Comments and congratulations at this juncture, and greatest relation is given to your very own mamma, Dr. Stuart and families; each and every advantage, among which a beneficial hubby when you need and need one, is definitely bestowed on you by yours, affectionatelya.a?
George Arizona to Step-Granddaughter Elizabeth Parke Custis, Germantown, PA, September 14, 1794
Shall we, in reply to the page from the 7th quick sayawhen you might be because near the Pinnacle of well-being as your brother Patcy conceives herself to be;1 or when your candour shines a whole lot more conspicuously than it does in the letter, that I will after that, comply with the request you get, for my own pic?
NOaI most certainly will offer they without either: for when alternative was to generally be a preliminary, it could be at some point we apprehend before that photo might be found pendant your bust; they not being from the edge of possibility that contemplation of an inanimate things, whatever may be the reflections as a result of the possession than it, would be the merely intend of cardio.
Respect may place it among the appealing elements than it, but discover behavior of a soft form, to wch one’s heart of a woman flipped of eighteen, happens to be susceptible, that has to has produced a great deal of warmer tips, the realization ones may, apparently, be much more isolated compared to those of any sisteras.